No. This blog post isn't some Thanksgiving horror story from the past. It's really an appetizer for an upcoming book review.
If you remember, I had a few words about an article outlining Radical Honesty - a movement fathered by Brad Blanton, PhD. To avoid a repeat, simply see my blog post: Never Tell a Lie: A Social Experiment
Curiosity got the best of me, and I purchased the book Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth by Brad Blanton, PhD.
Without trying to sound like the latest lunatic recruit to the local Cherry Kool-Aid Cult, I am blown away by the revelation hidden in the pages of the book. In fact, "Transform" doesn't seem strong enough to describe the potential for life change.
See, the premise isn't about escaping "lying" as we tend to define it. "Telling the truth about factual events"... typically the way we translate "Lying" in the Ten Commandments kinda way... is only the lowest level of living a life of Radical Honesty.
In the best way I can state, one premise focuses on giving up the "perceived" image of self which causes us to lie our way through holding up that image in the eyes of others. Loving the "real" image of self represents a mind free to create instead of running fantasy scripts about "who I am supposed to be."
Think about it. If you were always the "good girl", you probably didn't bother to reveal the 3 abortions you had in college.
And if you're the "good boy" of the family, you probably didn't bother to mention how you raided the cookie jar when you were 17.
And don't forget the fantasy of benevolence. If you were always considered "the loving and giving one who adores children," you probably didn't reveal the times you almost burnt-out and how you dream of the day people will stop handing you the kid projects.
The chapters on anger were without a doubt WORTH THE COST OF THE BOOK ALONE... AND THEN SOME. Unexpressed anger is a breeding ground for lies... the kind that feed stress conditions and fill early graves. And did you ever consider your anger as a way you hold others hostage to your unreasonable expectations of them?
Anyway, I will provide a COMPLETE book review after I finish the final chapters. I hope you stay two steps ahead of me by reading the book for yourself.
You may not agree with everything that Blanton offers. Neither did I. But I can't deny the power in those pages.