If I'm brave enough to post a picture of Beyonce Knowles next to mine, I must have a dang good reason. Right now, her song Irreplaceable is my personal poster child for disposable relationships.
As a member of the divorce statistic, I'm fascinated by numbers and pop culture that reflect the current state of marriage, divorce, and relationship health. As the divorce rate increased at lightening speed, terms like "forever" were replaced with protective terms like, "leave him before he leaves you."
"And it's my name that's on that jag.
So come move your bags, let me call you a cab."
As I listened to Beyonce sing Irreplaceable, I became wrapped around the sentiment of the song. As she breaks up with her beau, not only does she express little emotion, but she's practically pushing him out of the door with his few belongings, and reminding him not to think too highly of his importance in her life.
"You must not know about me.
I could have another you in a minute.
Matter of fact, he'll be here in a minute"
I am especially drawn to the line about her own importance and her ability to have another "him" in a minute. While listeners are supposed to think low of the man, I automatically wondered, "What kind of woman even wastes her time with a man who can be replaced at the drop of a hat?" It says a lot about a person who chooses such a superficial relationship. As far as I'm concerned, if I give you the time a day, you better be such an original that your absence would leave a hole that can't be filled by some Joe off the street. I value my time enough to demand that of my relationships.
Don't misread this as an attack on Beyonce. Her music can rock me through a long rush-hour drive. What I'm truly questioning is our growing need to have disposable relationships for fear of getting hurt. By all recent accounts, the astronomical divorce rate is finally falling... because the marriage rate is taking a nose-dive. In spite of the statistics showing that most want to be in long-term loving marriages, people are saying "pass" to avoid the potential pain.
"I won't lose a wink of sleep.
Cuz the truth of the matter is
replacing you is so easy."
I don't know about you, but I'm holding out for a major win in this department. I may never have Beyonce's legs, but I also won't be packing boxes for a disposable man in my life.
I'm looking for a genuine article who can't be replaced, and he'll be getting the same.